A friends of my friends are in newly committed relationships. After the heady high of romance, things can get rocky. From listening to their stories, I’m reminded of the challenges a relationship faces during that precarious and magnificent time when two people decide to merge hearts & lives.
John and I quickly decided we couldn’t live without each other; time was made irrelevant by the fact that we had found our other half. There is no more glorious feeling than finally finding the one you love. Cue: angel wings and the horns of heaven. So why then was the first year of our relationship so fraught with dramatic fights, fears and cry-fests (mostly mine)? Read more
“We must bring our own light to the darkness.” -unknown
Scorpio season is often one of my more creatively prolific times. I look forward to Scorpio all year. But this year is different. Saturn is in Scorpio. All around, emotions are more intensely felt, as is what’s bugging us. Whether we consciously realize it or not, many are fed up with something – politics, untruths, our depression, our illness, our Self. That’s Saturn in Scorpio.
I don’t generally feel this way about the Sun’s yearly visit to Scorpio. But the chronic pain I’ve been diligently working on is not going away, preventing creative surges. Adding insult to injury, I lost a precious ring given to me by my husband for our sixth-year anniversary. It must’ve slipped off at the gym, after being freshly scrubbed and sauna’d. I posted a horary chart on Facebook, asking: Where’s my ring? I received tons of interesting replies from astrologers, psychics and intuitives – it could be in my closet, under a multi-coloured carpet, next to a luxury car or a swamp-like place. Despite not having found the ring (yet), horary is always a fun exercise, and it helped keep my spirits up during this Saturn in Scorpio time, when, apparently, life can seem a bitter pill, and spirits can despair. Read more
“..light’s blinding no way dividing what’s yours or mine when everything’s shining/Your darkness is shining, my darkness is shining, have faith in our selves…” Truth by Alexander
Want to do that life-changing thing you’ve been putting off for so long? Are you ready for transformation– and deathly afraid of it? Want a deeper relationship to your self, your body, the people you love -to life itself? They say to truly live, we’ve got to be willing to die; to claim our power we must look at what we reject, fear, call “bad” or “wrong” in our self. To befriend our wholeness in totality, we need to bring the darkness in our Self, to light. Welcome Saturn’s entry into Scorpio (10/5/12 -9/17/15, with 12/23/14-6/16/15 in Sagittarius).
The Irresistible Pull Of Transformation
Change and transformation – how to do it, what’s keeping us from achieving the transformation we soul desire, holds a special magnetism while Saturn transits Scorpio. Like reaching the promised final layer of an onion, many of us will want to address that thing holding us back from full-on transformation. Once we sing that battle cry for change, we will also likely instantly run into our own defenses and resistance to letting go into change. As one women said to me recently, “I want to change – but on my own terms!” Of course Life will not oblige that request. We cannot give Life a list of our conditions and terms for our change and transformation any more than we can ask for a money back guarantee on a potentially rewarding/risky investment. During Saturn’s transit through Scorpio we may feel afraid to change, of death, loss, yet the pull of transformation is irresistible and related to our maturity. We need to clearly see death, change, loss, psychological awareness as apart of a leading a whole life. No more deceiving our self, or others -God of Karma, Saturn, won’t let us get away with it. If Saturn in Libra left us with a legacy, it’s this: the full truth is far more satisfying than half-truths. Read more
Awh Gemini, baby. I love me some Gemini, but these past 18 months with Gemini South Node have been… confusing, to say the least. Gemini revels in opinion, information, and the shadow side (which the South Node represents) dissipates itself with too much talking and thinking, not enough consideration before action, and too many ideas lacking big picture perspective. Read more
There is no greater joy in life than love. We love love- as it should be. To have someone … to have and to hold in sickness and health, for richer and for poorer…makes the coldness somehow warmer. In stormy waters, nothing but love, no one but our lifelong companion(s) could ever make “sickness” and “poor” remotely bearable, survivable even. Read more
In honor of El Dia de los Muertos and the Sun in Scorpio (10/23-11/21) - the season we have greater ease of access into the deep psyche, and can potentially transmute old attachments & griefs – my three-part article on the Eighth House.
In Mexico there’s a holiday ‘day of the dead’ or dia de los muertos, the one day a year set aside to symbolically honor those who have passed, when favorite foods are made, and the family comes together to remember, celebrate and pay homage to the people they love. A Mexican acquaintance of mine says, “This is one of the most beautiful holidays in our culture.”
In modern America, when the heart stops beating and the funeral is over. At large, there is no symbolic ritual or gesture of remembrance for honoring the dead. We may visit the cemetery or remember them in our heart, even as most of us believe that ‘life goes on’ (even if we don’t know where it is going on), we move on in our above-ground realities. But in Mexico, they know the dead live among the living. They may even sit down to eat dinner with us at night, if we set a place for them. It makes sense; where does the Spirit of our ancestors live, if not among and even within us? Our legacies are far more layered & complex than character traits we pick up from our parents, shared DNA and an inherited china or good silverware set. To deeply consider our ancestors is to consider all of the inheritances they left us, material & immaterial. Read more