While Venus transits the sign of Cancer some will find partnering, nesting, stoking the fires of heart and hearth desirable. Others will be challenged to address the emotional defenses keeping us from giving and receiving love.
“I don’t want to live- I want to love first, and live incidentally.” -Zelda Fitzgerald, Venus in Cancer
“What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller, Venus in Cancer
“The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy.” – Meryl Streep, Venus in Cancer
If you were born when Venus was in the constellation of Cancer, the Crab…
Guileless, moony, imaginative, Venus in Cancer has a charming vulnerability. If you have this Venus sign, your soft lovability and tenderness is magnetic and is designed to attract a very specific kind of partner – a kind, caring partner who values nesting, family. You are extremely sensitive. While your heightened sensitivity is appreciated by those who truly love you, it’s not by everyone. When a minor scrape feels like a Mac truck ran over your heart, you may think your sensitivity is a curse. Luckily this Venus sign has a shell. Venus in Cancer wears a protective tough-as-nails shell to manage her excruciating levels of vulnerability (and keep the riff raff out). After all, you’ve learned: people can be unkind, and hearts do get broken, there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, and there are no guarantees. But the only way to receive love is to open to it.
A Venus in Cancer in love…
No matter how extroverted or bold the rest of your birth chart is, care, tenderness, kindness and sensitivity rules your relationship life. Of course, you can pretend otherwise. Venus in Cancer born can play shell games with the best of them, keeping the true feelings of their heart under wraps out of fear of rejection or pain. Venus in Cancer needs their partnership to be a refuge, a healing sanctuary for their emotions, this relationship allows Venus to let her guard down, open up, share her deep reservoir of tenderness and imagination. An insensitive, wounded partner who has a goodly amount of healing and inner work to do will leave this Venus sign more shell-shocked than healed, so a safe, healing, nurturing and perhaps creative partnership makes sense for you. This Venus sign’s “Love Wanted” Ad reads: Tender, caring, soulful, imaginative partner wanted for heavy cuddling, nesting and rooting. Must want to settle down and raise chickens, cats, dogs or kids. Emotionally immature partners need not apply!
What this Venus sign needs to keep the love going…
Home, hearth and heart is essential to understanding any planet in the sign of Cancer. Family doesn’t need to be biological, but you must have people who inspire a sense of true kinship in you. Your home & clan must have heart, because domestic bliss is a place akin to heaven, and after spending time decorating, cooking and creating in your cozy crab shack, all that’s wrong in the world is righted again. Yes, there will be days when baking a pie is better therapy than the best marriage counselor. But you must also remember to take care of you, and this can be your biggest relationship hurdle: because of your caring, devoted nature, you can over caretake and “mother” others -whether they have asked for it or not. Remember, sometimes the most helpful thing you can do for someone you love is to let them learn their own lessons, and take care of your self. Moments like these are perfect for pulling on your need to self-nurture…for grabbing your favorite comfort food, a spiritual book and heading out to the beach.
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