Venus in Cancer: Moon Maven

by | Aug 7, 2012 | Cancer, Venus the Love Goddess | 21 comments

While Venus transits the sign of Cancer some will find partnering, nesting, stoking the fires of heart and hearth desirable. Others will be challenged to address the emotional defenses keeping us from giving and receiving love.

“I don’t want to live- I want to love first, and live incidentally.” -Zelda Fitzgerald, Venus in Cancer

“What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller, Venus in Cancer

“The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy.” – Meryl Streep, Venus in Cancer

If you were born when Venus was in the constellation of Cancer, the Crab…
Guileless, moony, imaginative, Venus in Cancer has a charming vulnerability. If you have this Venus sign, your soft lovability and tenderness is magnetic and is designed to attract a very specific kind of partner – a kind, caring partner who values nesting, family. You are extremely sensitive. While your heightened sensitivity is appreciated by those who truly love you, it’s not by everyone. When a minor scrape feels like a Mac truck ran over your heart, you may think your sensitivity is a curse. Luckily this Venus sign has a shell. Venus in Cancer wears a protective tough-as-nails shell to manage her excruciating levels of vulnerability (and keep the riff raff out). After all, you’ve learned: people can be unkind, and hearts do get broken, there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, and there are no guarantees. But the only way to receive love is to open to it.

A Venus in Cancer in love…
No matter how extroverted or  bold the rest of your birth chart is, care, tenderness, kindness and sensitivity rules your relationship life. Of course, you can pretend otherwise. Venus in Cancer born can play shell games with the best of them, keeping the true feelings of their heart under wraps out of fear of rejection or pain. Venus in Cancer needs their partnership to be a refuge, a healing sanctuary for their emotions, this relationship allows Venus to let her guard down, open up, share her deep reservoir of tenderness and imagination. An insensitive, wounded partner who has a goodly amount of healing and inner work to do will leave this Venus sign more shell-shocked than healed, so a safe, healing, nurturing and perhaps creative partnership makes sense for you. This Venus sign’s “Love Wanted” Ad reads: Tender, caring, soulful, imaginative partner wanted for heavy cuddling, nesting and rooting. Must want to settle down and raise chickens, cats, dogs or kids. Emotionally immature partners need not apply!  

What this Venus sign needs to keep the love going…
Home, hearth and heart is essential to understanding any planet in the sign of Cancer. Family doesn’t need to be biological, but you must have people who inspire a sense of true kinship in you. Your home & clan must have heart, because domestic bliss is a place akin to heaven, and after spending time decorating, cooking and creating in your cozy crab shack, all that’s wrong in the world is righted again. Yes, there will be days when baking a pie is better therapy than the best marriage counselor. But you must also remember to take care of you, and this can be your biggest relationship hurdle: because of your caring, devoted nature, you can over caretake and “mother” others -whether they have asked for it or not. Remember, sometimes the most helpful thing you can do for someone you love is to let them learn their own lessons, and take care of your self. Moments like these are perfect for pulling on your need to self-nurture…for grabbing your favorite comfort food, a spiritual book and heading out to the beach.

Don’t know your Venus Sign? Find out right here.

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21 Comments

  1. Michele

    This is beautiful…I have Venus in Capricorn but I really wish I had Venus in Cancer. So lovely. And the picture of Meryl Streep is stunning!

  2. Katherine

    I am absolutely nuts about a venus in canver. Any tips on how to make him feel the same way about me?

  3. Jessica

    Hi Catherine, Venus in Cancer responds well to thoughtful romance, but not going overboard or doing center of attention type things. I also wouldn’t put any pressure on him to be anything other than him self. Express interest but then let him come to you. He favours the indirect, subtle approach – and type of girl. The girl who is quieter, observant stands off to the side rather than being the middle of it catches his eye. xo, Jessica

  4. Kimberly

    So, when Venus in Cancer loves someone they really care to the person?

  5. Jessica

    Barring other astrological indicators, Venus in Cancer is extremely loyal and caring. -Jessica

  6. Ana Oliveira

    That’s my kind of Venus! I also have Venus in Cancer. But not everybody knows that, and sometimes even the closest to me knows the way I feel. Yes I have a shell, and home is where my heart is. I think I’m going to use that “ad” for myself, Jessica 😉

  7. Gianni

    Jessica, you’re an amazing scribe and I’d be remiss, as a Venus in Cancer Leo Sun, if I didn’t express that this piece is best Venus in Cancer description evah!–holla at yo Boi 😉

  8. Jessica

    Thanks, Gianni! If you liked this there’s more in my book Venus Signs– due out in Jan. 2015. Stay tuned 🙂

  9. pam

    This is so me! But I have Venus in Aries on the last degree of the 4th house. I do have an intercepted 8th house Cancer but planets there. My son has Venus in Cancer and my mom has a Cancer ascendant.

  10. Jessica

    Hi Pam, I imagine if you have Cancer planets you would identify with this Venus sign! xo, Jessica

  11. SJ

    I am confused! The man I really like is a Leo sun and Cancer Venus. Although his Leo sun makes him seem very confident and upbeat, the more I get to know him the more he reveals his shy side. He talks for hours about his inner world but doesn’t flirt although I feel that he does have feelings for me (his gazing eyes fix on mine the second we are near each other and he just gravitates to me like a magnet). I did flirt with him at the start as I find him VERY VERY attractive both physically and intellectually (I have to love someone’s mind before I want romance, despite their physical appearance) but he said he wasn’t ready and admitted he was very shy. That was a while ago and I feel him trying to reach out now, but i don’t know whether to make a move or not!

  12. SJ

    I forgot to say, I’m a Libra sun and Virgo venus. I have a lot of respect for him as a person and friend, that’s why I am hesitating.

  13. Jessica

    Hi SJ, it sounds like a Venus in Cancer man 😉 They are shy but also discerning about who they make their self vulnerable to. As you may’ve read in my earlier comment to Katherine here, indirect approaches work best for a Venus in Cancer man. Develop the friendship and remain open to more. He’ll pick up on those signals. If he likes you romantically, he will let you know. He is a romantic Leo after all! xx Jessica

  14. Sindy

    U serve he cares u talk like babbling person sorry I m a sun in Libra too .Embrace your moon sign and Venus sign .That is when a woman becomes her true self .The rest will happen in the due course.

  15. Elle

    Hi Jessica,
    can you tell me if men with Venus in Cancer (Sun Leo) come back and how to win them back? I am a Cancer (sun, Venus in Gemini). He seemed to care to less in our short relationship and is still a bit immatue. Thanks

  16. Jessica

    Hi Elle,
    An uncaring, immature person is not worth your effort to “win back”. Give him time to grow up. Focus on loving your self and giving all that attention you want to give him, to you. My book is an excellent resource for this A Love Alchemist’s Notebook xx Jessica

  17. Venice

    Hi Jessica,

    This is such a beautiful description of Venus in Cancer! I have my Venus in Cancer and there is this guy on my mind, since the past one year, who also has his Venus in Cancer. Oh, there is mutual admiration and a beautiful connection! I feel it, and I know he feels it, too. He also happens to have his Ascendant in Cancer and Moon in Pisces. And, by the way, my Ascendant is in Pisces and Moon is in Leo. Some practical stuff have held him back, and I wonder when will he make the move, if at all! ???
    Thank you so much! ???

  18. Jessica

    Hey Jessica
    I’m a Venus in cancer. And honestly I need help! The friends I had for 15 years plus (that I consider family) are no longer close friends of mine. The person I loved and gave my all to left me high and dry (started a family with someone else) family and i never had a good relationship. I know I need to self heal but its been 3 years and I’m still not able to progress and move on.. Not sure how to be great with out a team (team motivated) it’s just me! What should I do?
    Thanks in advance

  19. Jessica

    Hi Jessica, Nostalgic Venus in Cancer born can hold onto the past. Crab claws and all. Try asking, What is it I’m missing from being with a partner? Whether it’s companionship, someone to talk to about your life, to do fun things with, that’s all information you can act on right now. Doing so will move your mind and heart out of the past and into the present.

    Your relationship style is inclined toward emotionally bonding with others. Honor this need, don’t deny it. A dear friend or therapist can help you here, as can relationships with children (including nieces, nephews) and pets. All of us have been through long periods of not having a romantic relationship. We can always find creative ways to give our self what we need. xx Jessica

  20. Cameron

    Hi Jessica, very impressed with this description and comment thread – looking forward to buying your book.

    I feel like I met the love of my life a few weeks ago, she is a Leo sun / Venus cancer / mars libra – it felt like we were instantly attracted to one another and I convinced her to give me her number which she says she never does. Unfortunately I may have come on too strong telling her how beautiful she is / asking her out on several dates (she’s super busy and always had something going on every time so I’ve since chilled out)

    Last time we spoke she said she’s more slower paced and not looking for anything serious right now / is always doing something and just doesn’t have time for anyone, but that she would be down to get drinks to see how we get a long. Although it doesn’t entirely feel like she will give me that opportunity, or perhaps she isn’t quite ready to yet, it’s hard to tell (I think because of the shell you speak of) sometimes comes off like she couldn’t care less and I’m left wondering if there’s even any interest left.

    What advice if any can you give me? She’s honestly the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen and not just physically, her personality/energy is amazing – she’s the only woman I want truthfully, I’ve never met anyone like her.

    Reading about Venus cancer makes me think that she might be interested but perhaps doesn’t want to risk being hurt, but my rational mind can’t help but wonder if she just likes to have fun and has no romantic interest in me whatsoever.

    How would you recommend I proceed generally speaking? Should I behave / communicate in any specific way or should I just be myself let her be herself and let the chips fall as they may…

    Would love any insights as I wouldn’t be asking if I really didn’t think this girl was special.

    Thank you in advance <3

  21. Jessica

    Hi Cameron, here is my suggestion: listen to what she’s showing you- not what she’s telling you. As hard as this may be for you to accept, because you genuinely see some beautiful things in her, her actions are telling you that she’s not interested. If a woman (any woman, regardless of her Venus or Sun sign) is open to a relationship with you she will show you by being responsive to your overtures.
    There is no right approach, communication or behavior that you need to alter to turn a no into a yes.
    Trust that the right person will respond to you in exactly the way you do you! She’s out there. xx Jessica

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