Virgo New Moon: The Critic & The Crepe

by | Sep 14, 2012 | Illuminated Lunations, Virgo | 8 comments

This morning I tried my hand at a new skill: Making buckwheat crepes. Everything was going along smoothly. The sunshine is out, the birds are singing, and I’m making…crepes! I fantasize about buckwheat crepes becoming the specialty I am known for. Friends invite me over for the weekend for my crepes. Working along with the recipe, I don’t accurately gage the batter pour when I learn lesson number one: Crepes are best consumed as extremely paper-thin, delicate wrappers and are meant to highlight the delicious insides. Otherwise, they’re just pancakes. Undeterred by imperfection, I shred some goat cheese and before the crepe-now-pancake cools I quickly sautee some spinach (where was my sous chef?). Sitting down to a floppy looking grey green thing with cold cheese I optimistically tuck in only to discover the reason why it is always a good idea to wash even pre-washed spinach: There is a worm in my crepe.

It’s Virgo season. An ambitious time when we want to improve our self and get better at who we are and what we do. If we follow the urge, this invariably involves learning new skills, bettering our self — and falling short… because we do know starting something new doesn’t mean we are going to get it perfectly right the first, second or even the third try. That’s not the point. For Virgo, self-acceptance, self-forgiveness must go hand in hand with simply trying.

Sometimes though, through fear, negative self-talk or criticism, we sell our self short… and stop just short of flying.

That almost happened to me. Awhile back my book proposal was rejected by a publisher, in a very “don’t let the screen door hit you on the way out” kind of way. There was subjective criticism given, criticism that had me fruitlessly searching for a kernel of helpfulness. I couldn’t find it. It was, in many ways, a lesson in how not to break up with someone. “I don’t think we’re a good fit” suffices.  No one deserves the heartbreak of rejection and a laundry list of negative feedback. After all, that person is probably right for someone else- someone who sees their arrogance as confidence, their jaded bitterness as funny. Simply, they are not right for you. Well, I didn’t let the Critic win. Years later, I published that book, and it’s actually selling well. So.

When we meet The Critic, inside our self or externally, as a person, its as delicate as making a crepe. On one hand, there’s always room for improvement- and we are usually the first to know it. That’s the curse of knowing we are perfect in Spirit, but as human beings we are essentially imperfect. When we receive constructive feedback from others, after the sting of imperfection has passed, we can step back see some truth.

Destructive criticism, on the other hand, is short-sighted and it lacks heart. It is not helpful. It is not delivered in the spirit of helping you be a better you. It’s important to discern the difference. Committed relationship offers the chance to know this: We need to be free to say “this area needs improvement” to each other without being critical. Because, bottom line: criticism, whether it’s happening in our minds or our marriage, is toxic and deadly. Just ask the Gottmans, a pair of scientists who married and have researched marital stability and divorce prediction for the last 40 years, who say criticism is one of four of the most corrosive behavior patterns in a relationship. They even call these behaviors the “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse”.

This is a Solar New Moon Eclipse. Eclipses clear the decks. The instability of this celestial event, while unnerving, helps us to psychically clean house. What presents may force us to face where we’ve been in denial around or have overlooked. We might also look to this eclipse time as a potent period for willingly giving up, tossing out, or cleaning up a way of being that is no longer serving our growth. Virgo New Moon is a great time for beginning new health routines, trying out new skills and noticing any areas that, given a bit of elbow grease and instructive advice, we can take to the next level. An eclipse supercharges this impulse. I don’t know about you but I’ve been feeling like a Virgo on steroids, lately – a new skill to add to my tool belt, a new learning opportunity presents itself and I think “ooh, how great would that be”? With Jupiter newly in Virgo, for whatever is not working, we now have the opportunity to craft new wings and fly. 

In tune with the start of school season, we may feel like kindergarteners, perpetual beginners kneeling at the feet of the master. There’s so much to fix, improve upon and learn! Which is why this is also a time for tempering our self-doubts and imperfections with self-acceptance. Virgo offers instructive advice. Striving for perfection means following the long arduous path of self-improvement in small, humble steps…whether learning how to make a perfect crepe, publishing a book, or vigilantly self-healing when we discover yet another human ouch. We can learn to strive for perfection while continuously yanking out the thought-weeds of self-doubt and re-seeding the mind’s fertile soil with self-love. We can learn to accept perfection is an impossibility, and that sometimes good enough isn’t settling… it really is good enough. – features a great article about silencing your inner critic, and a beautiful poem.


You Might Also Like:

Sacred Space + Boundaries + Virgo New Moon

Sacred Space + Boundaries + Virgo New Moon

Let's explore the sacred. Your body is sacred. Your time is sacred. Your space is sacred. What do we mean by sacred? Here are some definitions: Worthy of your respect. Entitled to reverence. Holy. Other synonyms for sacred: Expresses the totality of life, is the...

Divine Intervention: Help Is Here

Divine Intervention: Help Is Here

DIVINE INTERVENTION: "Help is here and available for the asking." (or, IF YOU NEED HELP, YOU'VE GOT TO ASK FOR IT.) ** It’s the first full moon of the new year, and it’s a Cancer Full Moon so let’s hear it for all the feels. For Cancer, truly caring for ourselves...



It’s VIRGO season; a very busy time of year when many are doing more of…just about everything... and we are also keenly interested in learning, improving our lives and changing unhealthy habits. As you seek to improve yourself, instead of asking your willpower and...

Releasing Shame At Virgo Full Moon

Releasing Shame At Virgo Full Moon

Although I'm not a Virgo, last week I had an experience that Virgos want  to avoid like plague - I felt dreadfully unprepared. I made an appearance on my friend, Alice's, app but I didn't know how to use the darn thing. So, despite really wanting to be on my desktop...


  1. H.

    Rejection sucks, but glad to see you’re not giving up (from the previous post), as you know, now there are many other ways to get the book published and find your audience.

    The key is not to wait till it’s perfect ha ha! Getting it out there is no. 1, then revise at will. Having something exposed is the best motivator to perfecting it (I find).

    Good luck!

  2. Ellen Nicholas

    This was very significant to me. ..and just happened to be what I was thinking about 10 minutes before! How my self-doubt is so easily triggered, and I hold back on giving myself the love I deserve. Today is one of those days, when Moon is in Virgo, transiting my Saturn, and activating my Saturn square Moon and Chiron in Sag.!!and I had that kind of childhood, too. Thank you so much.

  3. Jessica

    thank you for sharing, Ellen. From the feedback I’ve received, you and I are not alone in our self-doubt. This new moon fell in my 12th house – of anxieties, worries, hidden enemies. I’ve been cataloguing mine, examining, picking them apart for validity. Turns out, they never are.

  4. Jessica

    Thank you, Helen. I value your enthusiasm and support~

  5. Emily

    “a feeling of being okay no matter what.”

    I’ve found myself struggling with this too, lately. On the one hand, when I’m caught up in the moment I can take something negative (like a criticism/rejection) and out of hurt feelings blow it all out of proportion, making it more of an issue than it really is. Then later when I sit back and analyze(!), I realize that most of these things are not as serious as I make them out to be. It’s not always as serious as it feels in that moment.

    Slowly I’m learning to take things a little easier now, a lot less PERSONALLY. I’m learning to take things *less personally*. There is a spiritual art to being engaged in the world in a genuinely loving way (putting your heart out there), and yet still being detached so that your inner peace is not disturbed by external circumstances. I suppose this is where spiritual strength comes in; maintaining proper perspective. That doesn’t keep me from crying sometimes, but at least I don’t stay stuck there like I used to.

  6. Emily

    I forgot to add: Sometimes it’s better to not have any attachment to the outcome of our efforts. Faith & trust, yadda, yadda. 🙂

  7. Shakti

    Ha! Crepes, you have NO idea how relevant that is to me this week… 😉
    I shared a crepe with somebody very special this week, who happens to be my CEO, and he is a great mirror for my own self-criticism.
    I feel like Cinderella but with no fairy godmother to help me figure this one out…

    Thank you. Very nicely synchronous post.. lol

  8. Jessica

    That is hilarious, Shakti! I love synchronicity. Thanks for stopping by. xo, Jessica

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Social media & sharing icons powered by UltimatelySocial

Enjoy this blog? Please spread the word :)