Full Moon Aries Lunar Eclipse: Warrior Moon

by | Oct 6, 2014 | Aries, Illuminated Lunations | 11 comments


Confession time: I’ve always had a fear of not being liked. Caving in to social pressure, via the desire to please another person rather than bare the uncomfortable pain of disappointing them, is probably my biggest and most persistently troubling life lesson to date. For me, this is no small problem, no minor flaw that I can brush under the carpet. I’ve sustained psychological and physical damage to my body from “people-pleasing.”

I have a list of self-abuses. Like the time I jumped off a waterfall in Hawaii with fear beating wildly in my heart, my intuition screaming “Nooooo!”, and a man next to me saying “go on and jump already.” So I jumped and wound up with whiplash, an injury that led to my chronic Fibromyalgia. Or there’s the time I visited a psychic who wanted to do an astrology for psychic reading trade with me, and ten minutes into her dire pronouncements I was so traumatized I wanted to get up and walk out with every cell of my being. Yet I stayed on, enduring the awfulness, even feigning polite niceness, until the moment I could bolt. My “politeness” not only cost me months of damage control for the power her words had on me, but in subsequent exchanges where I still (a Libra Rising, through and through) tried to be excruciatingly diplomatic about our session she went not a little crazy, attacking my business and person. There have been so many others…the time I wanted to walk out during the first five minutes of massage session but didn’t want to be rude, so suffered bruised muscles for weeks. Or the time I had a “healing session “during which my hands became paralyzed for five whole minutes, I started crying… yet didn’t leave because the practitioner was a friend of my husband. For that fiasco, my back sustained several mysterious blistering burns the size of silver dollars (the practitioner justified this as a sign of releasing excess kundalini).

Cataloging these failures of nerve is not my favorite hobby. I want to tell you that I am not afraid of standing up for myself, even if it will make others uncomfortable. I want to tell you that I’m a warrior at heart, and that when crossed I am a formidable opponent. I want to tell you that, in relationship, asking for and acting on what I need comes easy. I also want to say that expressing, and fielding anger from others, is no problem. But I cannot. While I am sure I have successfully stood up for myself many times and avoided disaster, I can count on one hand the numbers of times I’ve truly felt I risked losing another’s approval or love in favor of selfishly honoring my Self. At those times, it didn’t even feel good – I was shaky and felt my heart being torn in two. I didn’t feel the empowerment I imagined I was supposed to feel. Instead, with all the courage and fear it took to stand up for myself, I felt anxious, sick and just awful. Not exactly positive reinforcement my inner warrior needs. Not exactly the strong female power archetype I cheer on in my lady friends, from the sidelines.

I know I’m not alone. While boys are being taught to be little warriors, to compete and play war, for girls, there are no winners in childhood games of “tea party” or “house”. Cooperation, consideration, compromise are drilled into us and it is so ingrained that many strong adult woman still identify “not being liked” as their biggest fear. I get it. My Moon is in Aries, conjunct Chiron, with Aries Mars in a nasty t-square to Pluto and my Sun. I remember trying to stand up for myself as a child and being discouraged: from expressing my needs, desires and wants or anger at being trespassed. For a Libra Rising already inclined toward peace, love and harmony, this was lethal.

At this Full Moon, the Sun is in acquiescing, people-pleasing, polite Libra while the Moon is in hot, fiery, self-oriented Aries. Can you to find the courage to claim your personhood, your rights, even in the face of opposition? Are you ready to claim a “self-ish” need -and- face your fear of disappointing others? The comfort and security-seeking Moon is skittish in Aries, but that hair-shirt discomfort eggs it on toward claiming what’s right for “Me,” which ultimately creates a more honest relationship with both our self and other people. Pluto in Capricorn is also square Venus in Libra at this Full Moon, while Uranus conjoins the Moon. We are facing core issues that keep us in destructive relational patterns, and that takes audacity. As one brazen Aries Moon client said to me recently, “It’s time to start calling bull*** on people who aren’t being honest with me, or their self.”

My warrior-in-training-wheels admires her chutzpah. Personally, I find having an Aries Moon stressful, but also exciting. I am constantly prodded from within into taking risks, into facing the discomfort I field, yet experience has told me this Moon must have its mettle tested to be happy. The secret to experiencing this Moon as less conflict-ridden and more energising and exciting is to harness it’s edgy energy to face a demon, to courageously attempt to conquer a fear -of not being liked, of disappointing another – one more time. What personal victory are you ready to experience at this Full Moon? Me? Oh, thank you so much for asking. I’d like to finally feel good, empowered and strong when standing up for myself. I’d like to stop caring what other people think. I’d like to deeply know that what I think, how much I like myself, is the only thing that matters. Who knows, it could finally happen. Eclipses can turn us around, upside down, illuminate our awareness around a pattern and suddenly move us ten steps forward in our evolution. Eclipses are known for their magic.

photo credit: April @ BigSkyAstrology.com


You Might Also Like:

Divine Intervention: Help Is Here

Divine Intervention: Help Is Here

DIVINE INTERVENTION: "Help is here and available for the asking." (or, IF YOU NEED HELP, YOU'VE GOT TO ASK FOR IT.) ** It’s the first full moon of the new year, and it’s a Cancer Full Moon so let’s hear it for all the feels. For Cancer, truly caring for ourselves...



What hurts? What stings, is making you sad, frustrated or grumpy? It’s in the air… Today, Chiron in Aries moves retrograde. This offers many of us the chance to reflect on Groundhog Day type wounds. These painful patterns repeat because we are only halfway to...

Nourish Your Adrenals With Aries

Nourish Your Adrenals With Aries

Right now, Nature is quickly growing, assertively pushing boundaries. You likely feel momentum all around you, calling you forward. As such, if you don’t have energy, you will notice it. Lethargy, sleepiness, joylessness and disinterest in doing anything are key signs...

ARIES New Moon Prayer

ARIES New Moon Prayer

instead of confidence I want natural-ness the easy feeling of being myself, in myself comfort in my own body and skin doesn't arise from pushing into areas that cause me stress I seek a different kind of experience just as water, following her own riverbed, doesn't...


  1. Denise

    Amazing! It seems you wrote this for me…thank you – I really needed this right now.

  2. Surya

    This is beautiful Jessica! I am so feeling this Moon, Mercury, et al transit. I can relate with my very own 12 degree Libra rising and Taurus Moon in the 7th house where Mars Aries sits at 8 degrees. I am moved and inspired by your sharing. Thanks to my Mercury/Venus in Sag i’ve been able to be direct on more occasions than not. But as you so graciously reminded me, I know those moments of suffering inside due to Libra’s need to please. I feel you and your Moon/Chiron conjunct in Aries. WoW! It really made me appreciate my own Saturn/Chiron conjunction.
    Keep sharing your Moon light!

  3. Amanda

    Thanks so much for this! I have experienced that exact feeling of, ‘Wow, I’m standing up for myself…and it feels awful!’ The trick I am learning is to love, hell even *like* myself, when i see myself caring too much what other people think, acquiescing to their demands, etc. if I can love myself then, I can love myself always. 🙂

  4. Claire

    Love this article… I could have written it! As a fellow Libra rising but with an Aquarius moon… I am always trying to please people and I have also got into similar situations, where I have ended up asking myself afterwards ‘why the hell did I do that’ so thanks for writing this. It is funny, as I do want to call someone up on their bull sh*t but… I worry what they will say or think if I do! But then again… I have got to the point where I am beyond caring!! ????

  5. Sarah


    this is wonderful and so timely. i can really relate to your experience, and have especially felt in the past few days a lot of stuff coming up regarding my difficulty to speak up. i feel so guilty and selfish sometimes. i feel like i’m not allowed to speak up. but, i am pushing myself just a little and standing my ground. (it is NOT comfortable eeeek!)

    “Can you to find the courage to claim your personhood, your rights, even in the face of opposition?”

    going to keep this question in front of me. thank you!

    and thank you for sharing your experience <3

  6. Michele

    Jessica, it sounds like you deserve to make this change for yourself during this eclipse. I truly hope for you to find your courage to herald your inner Aries and move into a more authentic place for yourself. I know as a woman too, that many of us can use this kind of change. I even have Vesta, Eris and Pallas in Aries, yet they seemed “eclipsed” much of the time by my natal Jupiter in Libra. Though I do find that in intimate relationships, though I tend to not fight fair, I do believe in fairness overall. So the statement in this post about changing destructive relational patterns, that really hits “home”, and guess what? This is taking place in my 4th/5th house area.

  7. helen

    hi honey
    i have 3 planets in Aries (sun/jup/merc), i know whereof you speak… esp the putting up with abuse in the name of pleasing others so they’ll like me etc bla bla bla….ya, like for most of my life….. i been spending last few years doing abbi o’neill’s therapy of light and learned to do it for myself.. it’s a whole new world…. i feel like a brand new baby Aries even though i would be considered “vintage” at this point…. so yes, there is always hope, that you will like and love yourself and take up your appointed space in the universe you deserve – but wait! you already do that!!! right here, with your fabulous articles and website.. so all that other stuff is illusion…. you already ARE fabulous!
    thank you for writing this, very heartwarming xoxo from up the street 🙂

  8. Sandra Mosley

    Excellent post Jessica. Will be sharing!

  9. Jessica

    Dear All: From the bottom of my heart, thank you everyone, for your compassionate comments, responses and support. And for continuing to make Moonkissd a safe space to share. I <3 my Moonkissd readers! May you all receive Eclipse blessings!

  10. Carrollyn

    Thank you so for this post, it hit me like a sledgehammer. I felt this in my deepest reserves. I have done the whole pain for myself to please others my entire life. I am personally a Taurus but not the typical, it has been beaten out and stolen from me. At present I am working, working, working not to worry so much about what others think over what I think. I pray this eclipse helps me to move past the expecting pain and suffering and move into a space where the man who really knows and loves and protects me from myself, does not feel threatened by my past.
    I think that is the hardest part, not seeing the wonderful cause you keep expecting the other shoe to drop.
    THANK You

  11. deborah

    I.Love.This!!! Excellent writing J!

    It took me back to my twenties when I first offered my arm for a blood drive donation. The tubed backed up and I was in so much pain I almost passed out…
    but no……I wasn’t gonna tell the nice ladies doing such good work I was hurting, didn’t want to bother them, others were in such need….I SHOULD endure the feeling my arm was being sliced off! Why oh why do we feel we can’t say STOP….you’re hurting me? Great reminder to speak up at this eclipse…..

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Social media & sharing icons powered by UltimatelySocial

Enjoy this blog? Please spread the word :)