During astrology lectures, specifically the cookbook ‘by planet’ portion of the program, one question chiron-ically asked of the Expert is: Buuutttt, what about… Chiiironnn? Is it only me who fights the urge to ask, Would you like some cheese with that whine? Even when well-intended astrology-minded friends talk about our Chiron, we whine. Recently, a big name Astrologer complained (on a message board) that when she freely gave her money to a colleagues Paypal donation box, she expected a follow up thank you-note (she qualified this with a mention that Chiron is transiting her Pluto). Chiron seems to bring out the Whiner in everyone. So as Chiron transits my Sun by trine, prompting unusually high levels of emotionality and yes, whining, I decided to take a closer look at the Wounded Healer.
Where Chiron falls in the birth chart, we can heal our self and others. Always, we must first heal before we can be of healing usefulness to others’ because it is our own healing process that gives us the tools to help others with their difficulties. In myth, the immortal Chiron searched for a cure for his chronic (chironic) condition and eventually begged Zeus to become a mortal so he could die. Likewise each of us carries a Chironic wound that potentially creates existential and ongoing suffering in our lives. It’s easier to identify the wound than to heal it. The practical problem with Chiron is that while we ‘see’ that a wound exists in our psyche (by house, planet and sign) How should we deal with it? Do we shell out thousands of dollars for a psychologist to listen to us whine? Do we find a shaman who will cure us once and for all? Will that even work? Or do we have *more power to heal our own Chiron-ic wound than even we think*?
The Wound & Healing
Both Pluto and Chiron show our wounds. If we’re trying to get over a Plutonian wound, abuse, or grief from a nightmarish loss, we go to a psychologist or do the inner work. Through peeling the onion layers back over time, we make very slow progress. Pluto represents a core wound that takes our laborious focus a trust fund of money for therapy and our life, to heal. Chironian wounds are of a different nature. Chiron was wounded when a poison arrow grazed him. The Oracle of Apollo, when consulted about how to heal such a wound, answered The wound can only be cured by it’s cause. There’s a homeopathic principle at work with Chiron. The repetitive cycle of suffering, re-wounding occurs in order to provoke a shift in attitude and understanding. The arrow grazes Chiron. It is not a deep wound, but it is painful and constant enough to cause Chiron to pursue healing, lifelong. Chiron’s attitude shifted when he decided to give up his immortal life for mortality; paradoxically, its accepting our wounds, our own practical limits, that allows our inner attitudes to shift.
The Chiron-ic Attitude
It turns out, our attitude is everything. The risk during a Chiron transit is identifying with being wounded all over again, and then stopping right there and doing nothing more with it. My natal Chiron is conjunct my Aries Moon in the 7th House. For a long time I attracted partners who reinforced my feelings of early emotional neglect; they were too wounded, emotionally unavailable, unreliable to care about me. I’ve also experienced feelings and experiences of emotional abandonment by women friends and the caretakers in my family. I naturally developed an attitude akin to WTF?! and got real good at whining about these people. But. When I decide to make self-nurture, self-love and self-care absolutely non-negotiable and central to all relationships, everything changes. When I decide to stop compulsively over-giving to people who had a wounded Moon ~ or who weren’t able to emotionally reciprocate in the way I need~ my experience of others changes. It’s not as simple as the wound going away; I still get my heart broken. I still feel a core wound around love, care and nurture. But I heal by knowing these experiences have made me vulnerable, mortal and human. Then I move on.
Chiron is like that. It can be that easy. We shift our attitude, and the wound stops aching. Our choice with Chiron is: we can either keep crying about our wound. Or we can experience, as Steven Forrest describes, A change of attitude. A quantum leap. A new framework that allows us to leave something painful behind. Getting that framework can be as simple as taking a walk, as my friend did recently, and fed up with her own whining wondered, Why do I need to make this condition so central to my life story? What if I placed my attention and energies elsewhere? Her epiphany reminded me of a button a good friend’s mom gave me when I was 18 and chiron-ically ill. The button said, I Could Really Use a Good Distraction. At the time, I thought it was superficial — I mean, shouldn’t I be trying like heck, to ‘heal’? Now, reflecting back, I see the wisdom in that bumper sticker statement. My myopic focus on my suffer-some existence (classic Chiron complaint: There must be something wrong with me!) kept me stuck in a disempowering cycle of whining and victimization. Actually, she was right. A a good distraction did shift everything. After all, that period of being chiron-ically ill led me to kill time at my local New Age bookstore, where I picked up my first astrology book, where my healing journey really began.
Chiron to the Planets
When Chiron aspects a planet (& by house), here we have a chiron-ic wound. This is where our injury can be changed through a shift in attitude. The harder aspects (the square, opposition and sometimes conjunction) create developmental tension, making this attitude shift central to healing our self. By transit of a planet to Chiron or Chiron to a planet, we are both/and: vulnerable to the homeopathic principle of re-wounding, and/or we can get a new framework to leave the old wounds behind and experience a true attitude shift.
Chiron-Sun: suffering around our creative identity, confidence in our life’s purpose, the right to take up space. By transit, confidence/success comes from shining for the greater good, not just ego; urge to individuate, take up a heroes journey.
Chiron-Moon: neglect of emotional and physical nurturing/neglect early in life causes us to caretake others’ before ourself. By transit, attitude shifts around the ways you enlist others’ to repeat that same pattern; self-love, realization of self-nurture.
Chiron-Mercury: wounding around not being intelligent or book smart, hypersensitivity to rules of logic-reason over intuition-knowing and imagination. By transit, to shift internalized thoughts and attitudes, to deepen perceptions, to experiencing inner ‘knowing’.
Chiron-Venus: pain connected to sensuality, attractiveness, self-worth and self-valuation causing suffering in our relationships. By transit, using the appreciation of beauty, art, bodily pleasure & artifice as ways to individuate, un-linking attitudes around self-worth to attractiveness.
Chiron-Mars: fear, pain and wounding around expressing our wild, ruthless, animal-like warrior and sexual energy. By transit, opportunity to get stronger, develop sexual confidence, and ferocity, bring more mars into our life– through sports, learning to ‘growl’.
Chiron-Jupiter: suffering over not being successful, being the ‘King’, pain around moral and religious authorities, antagonism toward privilege. By transit, chance to shift our attitudes around and form our own definition of ‘the good life’, a spiritually meaningful life, being successful.
Chiron-Saturn: being overly rigid/controlled by fear, a sharp awareness of our inner critic, blaming others/society/the father for oppressing us. By transit, opportunity to: shift our attitude from outer to inner authority, release compulsive ambitions and fears, let our self ‘off the hook’.
Chiron-Uranus: fear over having my freedom compromised by others’, suffering over alienation, not belonging to the crowd, fear of being unpopular/not fitting in. By transit, using our differences to positively define us, dropping the external search for validation of my real self, authenticity/individuation/truth to self as a healing journey.
Chiron-Neptune: high capacity to empathically feel others’ suffering, feelings of overwhelm, unable to cope with reality, attachment to a ‘lost world’, isolated bliss-states, misplaced sacrifice. By transit, opportunity for compassionate self and others’ acceptance, reconciliation of dualism- the world as spiritual path, to shift attitudes around self-isolation, suffering.
Chiron-Pluto: chiron-ic suffering over ancestral inherited core wounds, death and dying. Attachment to intensity, sexual power, money; feelings of powerlessness to effect change/transformation. By transit, a change in attitude toward compulsive attachment, ie, acceptance that loss is part of life, knowing where real power lays, how to effect true change.