Aries Full Moon: Anchor Your Energy

by | Sep 23, 2018 | Aries, Illuminated Lunations | 14 comments

I recently visited Santa Fe again, my hometown. I love the high, mountainous, desert. The energy is so clear and earthy, and truly I charge up my grounding cords for the coming year when I visit. Sitting in the patio enclosure, feet on the warm brick floor with a blanket, the ozone scented air of a late afternoon monsoon rain embracing me like the gently curving lines of adobe, I am in my earth element. A clear eyed desert Goddess.

When I got home I realized that my energetic “door” has been too open, here. Whereas in our Santa Fe adobe I had claimed several little perches as my own, in Hawaii it was sloppy seconds. I have an office, my own private room to retreat to, but for various reasons it is not totally adequate.

I decided to recommit to anchoring my energetic space. Because it’s not about the structure of the space – how much or little room you have, how much or little privacy, or it’s adequacy – so much as owning a given space as yours. Finding what feels okay then filling it up with your God given energy.

I looked at my home with new eyes. Was there a cozy nook I’d been overlooking? A beautiful chair off to the side of the living room, on a square of carpet perhaps? I sat there for some time, like a regal Queen, filling the space with MY energy. In my imagination, I transposed the high desert energy on top of this small area, demarcating it with energetic lines that are a color I identify as my energy, centered, rooted, grounded and sunk into the deliciously smooth feeling of calm. When my husband tried to enter the space, I politely asked him to back off my “grounding station.” If I were a dog, this would be the equivalent of (ahem) marking territory. My energy was the only energy I wanted in this area. No one else’s. I was claiming MY space.

(I also asked him to bring me a drink while I sat, just for fun. Hey, I wanted to feel like a Queen, and set the sovereign tone of this space! He happily complied).

I figured if I couldn’t have a she-shed, this could work.I would anchor the space with my energy and see how it shifted things. The benefits were immediate:

I allowed myself to be Right. I had just been involved in an uncomfortable disagreement. I decided to break a commitment I had made last year, and I didn’t want any longer, which brought up some issues for the other person. My old habit of taking care of others’ feelings and wounds reared up quite strongly, and because they thought I had done something wrong to them, I struggled with taking on that feeling, too. So every time those feelings would come up I’d sit in MY space and allowed myself to be Right. As in, Goddess/God/I AM Right. Because I AM, serving the truth of your Divine Self, is the most powerful and peaceful place to embody.

-I started drawing boundaries. In my primary relationship I wasn’t liking the backseat driving, him jumping into the shower when I wanted to take one alone, or receiving advice when I needed, and had asked for, support. Instead of complaining about what was happening, getting caught up in emotions (I spent some time beforehand feeling those, on my own), I got practical about it, essentially saying: I don’t like it when this happens, can you do it differently? When challenged, I calmly held my ground…and because I had anchored my energy I had a ground to hold. When you’re in your light there is no need for anyone to feel threatened – and if they are, you clearly see it for what it is.

I stood up for myself. Several times. In relationship, we get to decide what kind of behavior is acceptable for us, and what isn’t, through what we allow and accept. For instance, someone dumping their “stuff” on me – the energies of their bad day, energy from their unhealed wounding patterns, etc.- is not something I am ever okay with. It’s always appropriate to, practically and calmly, draw a line in the sand when someone crosses yours. Simply stating that, without blame or judgment (it helps to deal with/release your anger alone, first), keeps you feeling clear.

When you truly sit in your own energetic space, all kinds of things become apparent.

…Like, how much you have been allowing others to walk in, and over, you.

…That you may not be in control of others, but you are 100% in control of your experience.

…And, that no one is ever doing anything wrong or to you. They are being their self. When that conflicts with how you want to be treated, the only thing to do is take care of you by anchoring your own energy, getting clear in your self, and asking for what you want. If they comply, great. If they do not, you are still rewarded with being clear in your self and feeling good.

So. Do you feel you have a right to take up space? To be Right, with a capital “R” (no matter another’s version/experience)? To do what you want (and not do what you don’t want)? To stand up for you? To draw a line? Do you feel how other people treat you in relationship is up to you (not them)? Do you feel like the Queen/Goddess of your life (not a servant to others)?

If you answered “No” to any of the above questions, why not spend some time anchoring your energy at this Aries Full Moon– so perfect for steeping in the energy and wisdom of the True Self? This Moon is conjunct Chiron in Aries and square Saturn in Capricorn, planet of clear realism, maturity and the practical structures of our lives. Where could you hold better boundaries? Where have you gotten too used to putting your self last (Chiron in Aries) instead of first- where you belong? If you’ve gotten lax, where might you need a little more of what my teacher calls a “Brooklyn attitude”:-) about standing up for your Self?


You are allowed to be Right.

You are allowed to be treated with respect.

You are allowed to respect your Self.

You are allowed to feel peaceful in your choices, and your partnerships.

You are allowed to own, and anchor, your energy.

You are allowed to connect deeply with your Self.

You are allowed to take all the time you need to do this.


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  1. Roswitha Graeser

    Thank you, Jessica, for this great text for the upcoming Aries Fullmoon. This helps me because I have to do exactly with this topic and feel confirmed.

  2. Marian Husband

    Jessica. This was reassuring to read. I am in the process of “claiming” my space as well in a work environment. I am say “NO” to a promotion, no to a vertical climb up the corporate latter for I want my personal work life balance and space that is sacred to me not to be taken from me.

  3. LauraG

    Jessica, I live in the high desert of West Texas and I loved your description of the energy in Santa Fe (which I love). This article was useful for me because I have not felt fully “at home” in the trailer I moved into over a year ago and it has taken me an incredibly long time to move in and — specifically — to set up my studio. Maybe I am not fully anchored as you described. I tried burning incense and sage and that helped shit the energy somewhat but I feel made wrong by my landlady so I loved your description of being right with a capital “R.” Astrology question: can I use astrology to find a place of compatible energy? Have you ever used it for that? Where I am doesn’t fit me quite right. I have a Scorpio rising and loved the Scorpio city of Denver and felt much more simpatico in the Leo state of Colorado. Any ideas on how to explore this idea?

  4. Susie

    This is an excellent article, Jessica. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings and experiences in this way. Strangely, or maybe not, I am working through the same sorts of things. I am feeling that I really must make a stand and own my energy. Your suggestions for how to do so will be of great help. Blessings to you.

  5. Daria

    This feels very powerful to me and I love it! Thank you for sharing!

  6. Ellen

    Thank you for this richly descriptive reminder! When it gets busy, I tend to sink back into caretaker, then wonder why everyone around me is doing well, but I feel drained.

    I have not recreated my “spot” since we recently moved. That is the piece of my paradise I was missing!

    I honor you.

  7. Shirley


  8. temple

    love the image. who’s the artist?

  9. Jessica

    Hi Temple, The artist for this image is Yash Raut, and you can find the image (#725566) on Jessica

  10. Stella

    I loved this beautiful article and totally appreciate the concept of energy and owning a space as I am a Feng Shui Practitioner!
    When I was little ,even then ,I knew to go to my safe place just as you described. Thank you for your honesty about relationships and boundaries which gives much food for thought!
    Brightest blessings,

  11. Serenne Romanycia

    I love this!! So relevant at this full moon. I’ve been learning all these lessons this week more than ever. Thank you for your wisdom!

  12. Cottonwood longings

    Omg. Thank you. I guess the energy of the cactus is quite appropriate. Oh. Love the monsoon time in NM. Blessings to you your own space. Dam right! Taking up our rightful place as Queens and Kings in our own kingdoms. Much <3

  13. helen

    Ha, Jessica, this is so appropriate for me – just moved, but crashed monitor and no phone for a month (totally offline ) – really seeing the influences around me! wow… everything you say here is so bang on…thank you sooo much for writing this – effing brilliant, so true… have moved into this tiny space and am in midst of redefining as my own.. interesting…. big hugs xoxo thanks again 🙂

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