In the spirit of Libra Sun and understanding our better half, here’s a sweet article I came across about the sign *his* Venus occupies… The Astrology of Love by Sloan Bella, astrologer and psychic.

Astrology–the study of the effect of the planets and stars on human affairs–is a great way to sneak a peek into the future and see what’s in store for you. When it comes to creating a successful long term relationship, astrology can help you understand your needs and what type of person is best suited to meet them. Venus is especially helpful in this respect; named after the goddess of love, the placement of the planet reveals much about the way one approaches relationships, romance, love and sex.

In a man’s chart, Venus tell us exactly what type of woman he is looking for and how he will interact with the females around him. To figure out what effect Venus has on your man, first find his birthday on a astrological chart [Editor’s note: you can find one here]. Then look up the appropriate category, and read on for valuable insight.

Venus in Aries

Men with Venus in Aries are strong, charming, dominant and traditional. They are willing to play and have fun looking for a challenge, as well as enjoying the beauty of a good-looking girl, fine wine and dinner. Humorous and always full of opinions, they are typical know-it-alls– it’s part of their child like veneer. They love becoming engaged in a good heated argument, which excites them. Unrestricted, spontaneous Venus in Aries is looking for trouble in love, and can be addicted to the conquest, “The Chase”. When they get a little jealous, look them straight in the eyes, mess up their hair and grab their face. Why? Because its their erogenous zone and they will become putty in your hands. They can get impatient with too much foreplay, preferring to get right to the point. These men are aggressive, sincere and enthusiastic in their sexual expression, but not always consistent. Never never lie to them; they have radar and will become relentless if they feel you have deceived them in some way. Over all, men with Venus in Aries are really lovely traditional romantic partners who are willing to explore the world with you as long as your willing to let him lead the way… After all, he knows where he is going.

Venus in Taurus

Men with Venus is Taurus “see” their partners through touch, taste, and smell. The whole world is a tactile place for these lusty types. Traditional and rooted in routine, stability is paramount for them. These men place a lot of significance on being able to treat you well, and they will spare no expense. Even those Taurus types who work on a shoe-string budget manage to give the impression of a caviar lifestyle. Sometimes they become so consumed with financial achievement that they forget to breathe and have a hard time relaxing, while other times they are adorable charming and verbally engaging. Everyone loves to hear them talk; they are wonderful story tellers with great expressions. Their sexual nature involves all of the senses, and they are the most physical of sexual partners. If the mood is right and there is plenty of physical contact, these gentle loves will become consumed by the experience. They don’t have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do simply because they are always in the moment with you. A regular sex partner is particularly important for these men. Their sexual stamina during love-making is long-lasting and steady. Kind, patient, natural and physical, Venus in Taurus is a good catch for the right girl.

Venus in Gemini

Men with Venus in Gemini are always in pursuit of the perfect mental connection. These smooth-talkers never want to be bored; life with them is an ongoing, moving conversation and experiment. They tend to roam around the neighborhood looking for exciting experiences, but sometimes they forget where they are going. If you are looking for a reliable partner, Gemini isn’t necessarily the best one for this job. Once they do fall in love they will spend all their time and energy trying to get you involved in their story. Use words in bed with them– talking turns them on, and they love to kiss! Role-playing and fantasy are the way Gemini expresses themselves in bed. If you choose to call them out in a point of debate, get ready for a long-winded examination. These men are less driven by desire than they are by intellect, and this will be basis of a relationship if you are like-minded and receptive to the mental and experimental nature of this quizzical kind.

Venus in Cancer

Men with Venus in Cancer want to serve you– that is, until you anger them, and then you will get the cold shoulder because these types retreat when they don’t get their own way. They will be loyal and romantic, but be prepared for an emotional roller coaster ride. These men are gentlemen in the true sense of the word. They open doors, buy you beautiful shoes, and cater dinners for your girlfriend at the book club. Unfortunately, they can’t let go of their past, which means you will know everything there is to know about his ex and why they broke up. He craves family (and may have been wounded by his own) so he will take care of your dogs, cats, and kids, and love every minute of being included. For men who have Venus in Cancer, you’ll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. When they’re not pouting, they are romantic and gooey with you. They get turned on when you’re a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know that you love them. They want babies, marriage, and love the idea of being all yours in bed. They don’t always let you know what turns them on, and expect you to intuit their needs, so don’t be afraid to experiment.

Venus in Leo

Men with Venus in Leo always need to be the center of attention. Beautiful, flashy, and proud, these men expect that you will date them when they ask you, and never imagine that you might turn them down. They are confident braggadocios who want an entourage that primps and primes over them. These men have a tremendous drive to prove themselves, so they will work hard to achieve their goals. If you ignore them, watch out, because they will explode. While some want a mate they can show off, many prefer not to have two stars in the same household. They can be quite possessive and jealous, although they’ll often try to hide this fact. They will test their partners now and again, and the more insecure ones will demand the world from their partners and ask them to prove their love. It is hard for them to separate love and sex, but even their most erotic sexual fantasies are infused with love and affection. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough, but you may appreciate their direct sexual expression and their openness.

Venus in Virgo

You never really know where you stand with these types because they constantly change their minds. They will work hard to give you what you want and enjoy fixing your problems. Work is what drives these men and makes them feel valuable. For them, sex is a bodily function, necessary for health and general well-being. Everyday stresses and tensions are released in sex. They love doing little things for you, and are happy when you express your appreciation. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to yours. Virgo is the sign of the virgin, and this aspect gives some astrologers the idea that they are very selective. Don’t be entirely fooled by this– they are not as picky as they appear. In fact, they love imperfections and have the best time with a partner who needs care. They’ll make a project out of you, and you will likely never feel quite so attended to with anyone else. Their fantasies often feature the downtrodden and inexperienced; voyeurism is especially appealing to these lovers, so consider incorporating that element in the bedroom.

Venus in Libra

Men with Venus in Libra are concerned with appearances and how they are perceived. These men can’t control themselves around someone beautiful. They love to travel around and enjoy social situations; they are always looking for pleasure and dislike unpleasantness. No profanity with Venus in Libra– extra care is taken to please the partner. These people can be provocative in a quiet way. Well dressed and appropriate in all situations, they make wonderful partners if you can forgive their need for perfection in their relationships. They love working on getting things right, while having a strong need for change and growth in their expression. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return. Although they can be pushed around for a time, their lovers must be aware that the best way to keep Libra lovers happy is to keep everything fair. Make them happy, however, and you have a lover who is going to think about you and your needs forever.

Venus in Scorpio

For men with Venus in Scorpio, control and freedom are major elements in all relationships. They need intensity, enjoy power plays and are attracted to breaking taboos. Some express their need for control by being unavailable and abstaining for long periods of time, giving in only when they feel their partner is deserving. Provocative and private, they are slightly paranoid and keep secrets even from those they love most. Their relationships are intimate and personal and given to suspicion. They love sex on all levels and make for adventurous partners who focus on the physical needs of the relationship. Venus in Scorpio can be jealous and possessive which can become an issue in their relationships. They have a strong desire to control, so you will need to set boundaries from the very first meeting to keep the playing field level.

Venus in Sagittarius

If you could only get the Venus in Sagittarius to focus for a moment, he would be the perfect man! Fun loving and excited by life, these men are truth seekers, so if the relationship doesn’t meet their needs they will try to move on rather then stand still and wait for a change. They can be prone to exaggeration. Planning ahead takes all the spice out life. They tent to attract others with a free and easy attitude, and quickly become friends with potential partners. They have an innocent frankness about them, and they love laughing and roughhousing. These men have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. The best way to approach sex with these guys is to “just do it”, and then talk about it after the fact, if need be. Even if your relationship is short lived, they will always remain your friend and even introduce you to your future husband. They are usually strong and attractive to all around them.

Venus in Capricorn

Men with Venus in Capricorn tend to be a bit insecure– sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best for them. They are attracted to experienced, and sometimes older, partners. They will turn their backs on things they deem too frivolous, and prefer strong, powerful lovers who display some sort of authority or know-how. Variety in sexual expression is less important to them than feeling secure. They are private about what goes on in a relationship and critical if you are not. These men are attracted to status symbols and wear the best clothes or choose to buy impressive cars. They often have little secrets (like cross dressing) when it comes to their sex lives preferring not to let you know up front about their sexual peccadilloes. Once they let you in to their private life they expect loyalty, truthfulness, and you can expect the same from them.

Venus in Aquarius

Men with Venus in Aquarius have an aloof air about them that others find attractive. It is easy to feel claustrophobic in relationships with them when they become too demanding of your time. They have a “take it or leave it” style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. They don’t have a reputation for warmth, although they may think that they are open-minded. These men enjoy the pursuit of the relationship. It will take you a while to get to know them, but once you do know them you will see them open up and express a loving nature. Detachment can be pleasurable for them, so they enjoy relationships that let them have the freedom to move around and do what they want. Give them their space and they will come home at the end of the week and hold you tight.

Venus in Pisces

Men with Venus in Pisces are romantic, quiet, knowledgeable, and cautious when approaching a relationship. The arts, marketing, music, teaching, drama, healing arts . . . these are all fields in which they can find expression. Their imagination, respect for humanity, and remarkable intuition endow them with enviable gifts of insight and creativity. At times romantic and goofy, these lovers are actually a bit like chameleons. It’s hard to pin them down to any one style. They may talk a lot one evening, and be withdrawn the next. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression. They’re very sensitive, but will almost always forgive you. They’ll even let you go your own way if you so desire, but will love you forever anyways. They can and do use their intuition in relationships, and are often distracted by others and their thoughts. It is very important that they be around people with the best intentions, or else they become prone to depression.