Cancer Full Moon: The House of Belonging

by | Jan 14, 2014 | Cancer, Illuminated Lunations | 10 comments

cat-by-cozy-fireAs we turned the corners of the new year, I returned home after living in Stockholm, Sweden for four months. I am finally where I belong. Home. In Northern California where the air has an otherworldly perfume of damp peaty musk and fresh green. Home. As David Byrne of the Talking Heads once sang, “…where I want to be” And as poet David Whyte once wrote, “…where I want to love all the things it has taken me so long to learn to love.”

Returning home has made me swoony with happiness, in love with things it has taken me long to learn to love: the drafty windows that won’t entirely shut. The chickens John bought as his pet project and over the years became mine; the comfortable-for-one-but-too-soft-for-two (so the lighter person always rolls into the crack by midnight) bed; the redwood hot tub that takes the edge off the dampness that gets in our bones out here but needs vintage car level maintenance; my cramped too-tight house, full of family, energy and life and the wide-open freedom and loneliness when it’s empty.  Home’s gentle and secluded nest allows me to love things in myself I have a hard time loving in my self, my life. A safe harbor and guardian of my inner world, home makes room for life’s contradictions. Where else can the quirks, joys, emotional hiccups and sadnesses, the full range of one’s inner everything swirl together and simply be okay?

Home is belonging. We often think we own our house, that it belongs to us, but in reality our home doesn’t belong to us so much as we belong to it. For instance, here’s something I know about my cat, Obi. We can leave him at home in the hands of another caretaker, for months, and he is so happy I’m not sure he even noticed we were gone yet if we’d sent him to a pet hotel or even another family member’s house, his world would’ve ended. He belongs here, to this house. It seems if we care for and love a thing, it owns us (pet owners know this). And like any intimate relationship, the more we invest in the places, people and pets we love, the harder it is to think about ever leaving them. Belonging is not for the commitment shy.

Home is on the inside, they say, and if we feel at home in our self, we can be at home in the world wherever we are. But without a true place to anchor us, it’s impossible to know where we belong. Home is earthly, a physical dwelling place, a country, the friends and intimate partnerships we return to over and over again – the people and place we are charged to care take and care for with devotion and love. By so doing, we create the necessary sanctuary for our self, a refuge to restore our self so that we can go out into the world feeling at home in our self. The safe feeling: you belong hereno matter what we will always be here for you with open arms translates into that magical security of being permanently okay.

The Capricorn Sun’s symbol is a solitary, earthly mountain goat, symbolic for the time of year many of us are gearing up for the year’s necessary material pursuits. As a balance the Cancer Moon asks us to check in with our physical dwelling place, the people we call family and kin, and the condition of our heart. What do you need to tend or heal in your life? What people, pets and family of friends might need your love, care and support? At new year’s we did our family ritual of going round the dinner table with the “best ” and “worst thing” that happened this year. It had been a long time since we’d caught up like this, we learned a few critical things about the secret inner lives of our teenagers and are now thinking how we might better support them.

If your home is not feeling so bright, nor giving you the fulfilment of being “at home”, the planets and signs in the house of Cancer, the astrological Fourth House, say something about the type of home you need and the type of soul mate are willing to live under one roof with, let alone yoke yourself to for eternity. Jupiter/Sagittarius here? A big home and an optimistic, jolly partner. Neptune/Pisces? You need a sensitive, spiritual partner and housemate, and a meditation room at your house. Saturn/Capricorn? A stand-up, reliable partner and at least one room that’s your very own are necessary for “the temple of your adult aloneness.” When a couple is moving in together, I always look to their respective Fourth Houses for homey synergy. The Fourth House is where we find our people and place.

At this Full Moon, tend to the place and people that you return to, that cradle and hold your heart, without which all your worldly pursuits and ambitions would be empty. For Cancer, home is a verb; a tending, doing and caring, a temple flame to be renewed with devotion. Cancer Full Moon asks, In what bright home do you want to love all the things that have taken you so long to love? Are you already living in it?  There is no house like the house of belonging.

This is the bright home

In which I live

This is where

I ask

My friends

To come,

This is where I want

To love all the things

It has taken me so long to learn to love.


This is the temple of my adult aloneness

And I belong

To that aloneness

As I belong to my life.


There is no house

Like the house of belonging.

-excerpt from The House of Belonging by David Whyte

image: The OP Life


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  1. Sara

    Ah, thank you so much for this post. After recently separating from my partner of 14 years, for the first time I am the sole adult in charge of a house. I have been cleaning and rearranging over the last couple of days and just loving having things the way I like them to be. It was interesting that you said that having Saturn in your fourth house will indicate a need for your own space – so true! I have both mars and Saturn in cancer in my fourth house (at 27 deg!) I wonder what mars signifies?

  2. Jessica

    Thanks, Sara. I think Mars would like to put her signature on things at home, if not have things her way 😉 I have an Aries Moon, so Mars ruled. It feels similar, I’d imagine, to Mars in 4. It’s by design that my house reflects me. And there’s a bit of red!

  3. Ana M Oliveira

    Sometimes my friends call me insane, because for me “home is a verb, a tending, doing and caring, a temple flame to be renewed with devotion” as you said, Jessica. They don’t understand my feelings for my home. For me it’s a living thing, my earth, where I am truly myself with all of my fears and joys. I have Venus in Cancer there so “home is where my heart is”…); one of the most important things in my life.
    Yes, I had a cat once, too, she lived with me for almost 13 years (or should I say, I lived with her?:-) ), because I know from the 1st day that she had belong to that place…
    Thank you also for the tip for a partner Saturn-Capricorn in 4th house…:-) very different of my Venus Cancer there, isn’t?

  4. Lydia

    Hi Jessica!

    What if there are no planets in the 4th house? Am i doomed to walk the earth homeless for eternity? Also with cancer as my rising sign how am i effected by the moon in that sign?


  5. Jessica

    Yes, Lydia, your Moon sign also says something about your home and house-mate. Also look at the sign on the cusp of the 4th House. For instance, a Capricorn 4th House cusp would be similar to having Saturn there.

  6. Jessica

    You’re welcome, Ana! Always nice to hear from you. I have Venus in Cancer and so do some of my close girlfriends – your experience definitely jibes with ours! xx, Jessica

  7. Ariel

    Aw, such a lovely post.
    I live in London but feel deep longing for California. In fact your wonderful blog post on astro-travel & relocation astrology resonated with me!
    I have Pluto in Scorpio in the 4th house. I am currently living with my partner in a small flat (his). He has the Moon in the 4th. It is probably the best living situation I’ve ever had besides living on my own – house shares have always been nightmarish. What’s your take on Pluto in Scorp in the 4th?


  8. Elly

    Looking at a chart I had done for me by someone many years ago, I can see that Cancer falls between my 10th and 11th houses, which interestingly have no planets in either of them. What does that mean? Sagittarius is my 4th house.

  9. Jessica

    Thanks, Ariel. Pluto in the 4th: a psychologically healthy, aware and honest house mate who doesn’t invade your space, respects your privacy 😉 Pluto/ leaning toward darker, rich jewel toned interiors with plenty of secret private cubbies and nooks. And astrology books, of course! xx, Jessica

  10. Jessica

    Hi Elly, you have a little of Cancer in the House of Career/Community and House of Dreams/Future Goals/Affiliations and Networks. No planets here mean your planets are busy doing things in other areas, but by no means is your career or future lacking or empty. Planets are simply energies. House cusp signs color the backdrop of that areas of your life. xx, Jessica

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